Walk alongside and listen
Sacramento Loaves and Fishes is proud to announce its participation in this year's Big Day of Giving on May 2nd, 2024. Founded in 1983, Loaves and Fishes has been dedicated to serving the homeless population by providing essential survival services, including meals, day-shelter, and advocacy. With 41 years in the local community as a nonprofit organization that does not accept government funding, we recognize the pivotal role individual supporters offer to aid in programs and services for people experiencing homelessness. Oftentimes this can mean simply being a listening ear for many of our guests who have been socially isolated through homelessness.
Our theme this year is to walk alongside and listen. This is one of the key ways in which our founders served and today this wisdom continues to resonate with how we approach our guests. In celebration of our longstanding commitment to providing survival services, Loaves and Fishes is launching a special Match Campaign as part of its Big Day of Giving efforts. Generous members of our community, including individuals and businesses, are invited to participate. This is an opportunity for us to come together and make a significant impact in the lives of those experiencing homelessness. With your support we can continue to provide vital services. We invite you to walk alongside us on Big Day of Giving as we work towards creating a more equitable and compassionate society.
Ways that you can participate in Big Day of Giving!
- When: Thursday, May 2nd, from midnight to midnight
- Early Giving begins on April 18th
- Where: From your phone, mobile device, or computer via https://sacloaves.org/
- Donors interested in participating in the Match Campaign or seeking further information are encouraged to contact Naomi Cabral at naomi@sacloaves.org / 916-637-2517. Contributions can also be made by sending a check made to Sacramento Loaves and Fishes at PO Box 13495 Sacramento, CA 95813. Please indicate you are making a ‘BDOG MATCH’ donation on your check or online payment reply email.
The 36 Things
1. Don’t worry about “enabling:” plenty of people worry about that already.
2. If you aren’t willing to be used, try another line of work.
3. The interruptions are your most important work.
4. Be careful to learn names.
5. We are all equal. We take turns serving each other. Allow yourself to be served once in a while.
6. Be vulnerable. Drop your defenses. This will make up for the fact that while you are at Loaves & Fishes, you
have the greater power over the guest.
7. If you begin to get angry, back off. Anger and hurt are indications that you are nicer to others than you feel, or
are overextended. Pay attention!
8. Take time to hear the stories!
9. Listen more than you speak. Listen from the heart, not the head.
10. Focus on one person at a time. Focus deep. Be attentive. Avoid the temptation to let someone else interrupt
your focus until you are done.
11. The person whom you fear or loathe is your greatest teacher! Go back to him or her as much as you can
bear.
12. There is always another story. Be careful not to take the side of one person over another in disputes between
guests. (Please avoid the temptation to gossip about a guest with other staff.)
13. Enemies one day are friends the next. Do not join in the trashing of guests by guests, or take sides between
couples, even when they are at each other, except to prevent violence.
14. Practice seeing the eyes of Christ in the face of everyone you meet. Speak to the Christ in them from the Christ in you.
15. Let the homeless make the agenda, even if it isn’t efficient or the “best” way. Except for a violent situation, let
go of control.
16. Make your best suggestions to the guest, then let it go.
17. Are you worthy to cast the first stone? Do not judge. Do not condemn.
18. Admonish guests for their behavior only. Be willing to hear their story, but do not get into the matter of
reasons or motivations.
19. At least once a day, seek out a quiet person to talk to and say “hello.” They may need attention more than any
of the others.
20. Don’t expect to change anyone. Just live with the guest in each day as it is.
21. Don’t give out answers. Just walk alongside and listen.
22. “Make your work your worship.” Be present in the work.
23. Cultivate the ability to meet the mood of the person who is talking to you. This may be hard sometimes when
a serious or angry person talks to you right after someone who is comical or light hearted. When someone
shows anger, be respectful but do not reflect the anger back.
24. Make it a general rule not to purchase anything from a guest no matter how inexpensive the item may be, or
how desperate the guest may be to sell. You may become an unwitting fence. Professionally, it’s unethical.
25. “Be faithful” is all.
26. “We can do no great things, only small things with great love.” (Mother Theresa)
27. When talking and listening to a guest, put away any thought that you should be somewhere else, doing
something else, or that you have something more important to do.
28. Keep a spiritual balance in everything you do: pray, meditate, read scripture, seek out a spiritual guide,
something!
29. When conflicts arise, go slower, speak softer but up close, as if the crowd wasn’t there. Project your voice to
the ear of the person you want to touch. Be an island of calm. “Laser” your attention to the person in the
center whom you know the best or who is the most violent. Speak his or her name and don’t be afraid to say
the key thing over and over again in your calm way. “How” you say is more important than “what” you say. If
violence is imminent, catch an eye and step in the middle with hands up!
30. When it comes to matters of social justice and personal conscience, create as much holy mischief with the
powerful as possible.
31. Take the side of the poor, the victim, in every conflict and share their fate.
32. When it comes to maintaining boundaries, work constantly to stretch them out as far as you can. Be a
professional when it comes to ethics, but as far as preserving objectivity, do this only so that you can serve
others better, not as a means to keep yourself distant and uninvolved with the pain. Be a friend first.
33. God is the guest.
34. Be open and generous! There is enough of you and material things to go around. The more you give away,
the more there is to give. This is especially true of the heart.
35. The bigger Loaves & Fishes grows the more you must strive to serve the individual as a differentiated person.
36. Don’t hold back on personal services.